Speaking of not being a qualified person to make claims, look in the mirror.
Here are some actual hard facts. While married to Shawn - Valerie lived like a pig and by extension forced her children and spouse too as well. She did not share a bedroom with Shawn. She was an animal and object hoarder, the family home was nearly unlivable. She refused to work, cook, do laundry, clean or drive. She isolated herself and the children in every way possible. She ‘lived’ on the internet, making up fake aliases and stories which she shared on different chat sites. A lot of people do this on the internet but for Val it was almost real. She spent 12+ hours a day lying and manipulating people though various websites. She wrote in her diary about attempting suicide and wanting to do it again. She forced their daughter, and son to share a bed with her well beyond the age it would have been appropriate. She refused to allow them play dates and wouldn’t allow them to attend school. She home-schooled them, poorly. (She had no itinerary or materials. When we enrolled the kids into school they were behind their peers in nearly all subjects. We gave them support and a lot of help to get caught up and now they are consistently on the honor roll.) She treated the kids, internet ‘friends’ and pets as her only source of affection and love. When the marriage ended and I helped clean the family home there was so much cat urine, feces and hair on the mattress Valerie forced the kids to share with her, I COULD ACTUALLY DRAW PICTURES through the filth with my finger. There were no sheets and the blankets were urine soaked and smelled horrible. The pillows were heavy with cat urine, sweat and cat hair. Underneath the bed was mounds of cat feces in various stages of decomp. The home was so full of 'stuff' there was just a narrow walkway around the home between towers of items and crap. Chickens had also been allowed to roam freely through the home as well as a rat and other animals. When we went to move the washer and dryer there was literally a 12" pile of feces and urine built up inside the base of the machines. The home literally was gutted and we started over. Male cats had 'sprayed' the walls to the point they were crumbling. So when I say gutted I mean sheet rock had to be ripped out, flooring ripped out, doors replaced, carpet ripped out, mattresses thrown away... literally had to re-do the whole inside. I admit, when I went inside that house of horror I was angry that Shawn allowed his children to live like that. I really don't feel any excuse he can give me makes it ok. It was completely unacceptable for children to live that way. However, he worked long hours to support his family of four and year after year Val refused to get employment and help. So Shawn was out of the house for 18hrs, would come home, cook, do dishes, laundry, try to clean up some, then sleep and get up and repeat the whole process. Val spent the day on her a$$ chatting on the internet. As the divorce progressed things in Valerie's life were not going the way she wanted but she continued to manipulate and lie hoping she could create the reality she wanted. Her behavior got even more unstable. She first tried to move in with her family in Idaho, in LESS THAN A WEEK she called Shawn and demanded that he come pick her and the kids up, she couldn't stand living there. She then moved in with Shawn's parents. She isolated herself and rarely left the basement. She started claiming numerous physical ailments that despite various medical appointments no doctor would confirm the diagnosis she sought. She then started 'curing' herself with different diets and herbal remedies. Her mother-in-law took her to a medical appointment (because remember Val refused to drive) and she watched Val take a cane out from under the seat and hobble inside. Interesting thing was the mother-in-law LIVED with Val and had not seen her previously using a cane at any time. Val lived in a basement and had steep stairs to climb on a daily basis and didn't seem to need the cane. Only seemed to need it when visiting the doctor she was trying to get to sign off on herself diagnosed 'ailments'. Her use of the cane didn't get her the desired result. So she finally got a job. She was employed by a group that provides respite care for families with disabled children. The job came with living quarters for her and the kids and she also eventually got a car. Eventually the boss and property caretaker became alarmed by Val’s lack of housekeeping and unstable behavior. She was forcing the kids to sleep with her, despite there being tons of room for the kids to have their own space. The conditions of the room they all shared were deplorable, filthy and cluttered. The employer was also getting complaints that Val was not caring for the clients’ children appropriately. Longtime clients were refusing to bring their children back. They were going to fire her. Val decided to take the kids and disappear.
The investigations were not lacking. VAL IS LYING TO YOU to gain something. Sympathy? Attention? Again, ALL investigations cleared Shawn. That would be the Child Protective Services of Montana, America’s Most Wanted, New Mexico CPS, a forensic psychologist and Val’s own criminal attorney; who stated in court there was not a single piece of evidence to substantiate what Val was saying. Val’s first lawyer filed to separate from the case when they uncovered evidence that she blatantly lied to them. She had numerous other lawyers who all were unable to provide anything to the court that had substance and truth. You really believe that ALL the agencies and lawyers were inept? They all did a crap job? That is insane.
The therapist that you said the kids went to and Val ‘paid out of her own pocket’, the kids returned to that therapist upon being reunited with their father. He did not attend the sessions. That therapist diagnosed the kids with PAS, parental alienation syndrome. Remember this is the SAME therapist that Val had selected and trusted. Here educate yourself, we did. http://www.kidsneedboth.org/detect.html
So really the bottom line is, Val committed a criminal act, plead guilty and was convicted. She is a felon. Despite all her manipulations and lies not a single person or group brought charges against Shawn. So again, he was PROVEN innocent and she was PROVEN guilty. I have provided actual links to documents that I cannot manipulate or edit. They speak for themselves.
Oh and yes, I am married to Shawn. He is a fantastic father and husband. You are the only one left hiding your name and relationship to Val… hmmm, I wonder why?